What are the last 5 things that you have said out loud to your child or about your child?
Sometimes when emotions are high and patience is thin, we can say things about our children that we don’t mean to say….
“Oh, you little rascal!”
“You bad girl”
“You are so naughty!”
“Oh, my little runny nosed boy”
“You little devil”
“He just never listens to me”
“Oh, she’s just a flirt”
“He’s a cranky boy”
“She is shy”
“Seems like he is always sick”….
Our words as parents have more power than we think. Our kids hear the words that we say about them and they begin to form their identity based on our words. Our words help shape our children and their future.
Good rule of thumb:Never say anything about your children that you would not want to come to pass. Our words can become self-fulfilling prophecies if we are not careful.
Proverbs 18:21 says it best:
“Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit – you choose.”
As parents we have the choice everyday to surround our children with words of life or words of death. Words that build-up or words that tear-down.
Our words are more powerful than we recognize.
If you do not know where to start start, here are some good phrases to have in your back pocket…
“You are so smart”
“You are such a good boy”
“Wow, you are a great helper”
“You are funny, you make mommy laugh”
“You are beautiful… you are handsome…”
and for when they misbehave…. “That is not the (child’s name), I know…”
As parents, we need to be reminded: “if we don’t have anything nice to say…. Don’t say anything at all”
Lord, help me speak only words of life about my children. Lord I believe my children are favored, blessed, healthy, strong, spiritually keen, etc. Help me to speak, the same things that you speak about my children.