Us parents need help! We need all the help we can get! If you are anything like me, I am always looking for advice and help on how to do the parent thing better!
I have to tell you, out of all the many blogs, books, websites, magazines, advice, theories, and ideas I have read so far … there are two books that impact the way I parent more than other resource. These two books have given me such foundational and practical wisdom on two large areas of parenting infants and toddlers that people usually have the most trouble with …. 1. infant sleep patterns 2. toddler behavior issues.
If you are new to the parenting scene or if you are a veteran looking for some good reads … these two are must reads!
1. “On becoming: BABY WISE: giving your infant the gift of nighttime sleep”
by Gary Ezzo & Robert Buckman
As a new mom, one of the most daunting tasks if figuring out how to feed your child and how to set-up their bedtime routines. This book gave SUCH practical advice. This book basically gives you the play-by-play of how set-up your child’s feeding and sleeping routine. It gives you data and scientific reasoning that gives you confidence to know when it is ok to let your baby “cry it out”, take away the binky, and stop rocking to sleep, etc.
Here are some quotes from Baby Wise:
“The typical infant has both the natural ability and the capacity to sleep through the night sometime within the first nine weeks of life”
“Think of crying as a signal, not a statement against your parenting”
“Many babies cannot fall asleep without crying and will go to sleep more quickly if left to cry for a while. The crying shouldn’t last long if the child is truly tired”
2. DARE TO DISCIPLINE
by James C. Dobson
I remember getting my hands on this book around the time that my daughter was 18 months old and starting to clearly exercise her own will. I remember knowing that I needed to discipline, but not knowing when was the right time and how I was supposed to do it. This book, like Baby Wise, gave me so much wisdom and confidence to know how to discipline my child well. I can not recommend this book enough!
Here are some quotes from Dare to Discipline:
“Children thrive best in an atmosphere of genuine love, undergirded by reasonable, consistent discipline”
“His early view of parental authority becomes the cornerstone of his future outlook on school authority, law enforcement officers, employers, and others with whom he will live and work”
“One should never underestimate a child’s awareness that he is breaking the rules”
“When you are defiantly challenged , win decisively. When the child asks, “Who is in charge?” tell him. When he mutters, “who loves me?” take him in your arms and surround him with affection. Treat him with respect and dignity, and expect the same from him. Then begin to enjoy the sweet benefits of competent parenthood”
“In those situations when the child fully understands what is being asked to do or not do but refuses to yield to adult leadership, and appropriate spanking is the shortest and most effective route to an attitude adjustment”
Hope these resources are a blessing to you! Do you have a favorite parenting or motherhood book? Please comment below and let me know your favorite parenting book!